In-person & Online Somatic Therapy in Oakland, CA
Come home to yourself—and know you’ll be okay.
Reconnect with your body, your needs, and what actually matters to you.
Your body has been trying to tell you something.
Maybe you’ve spent so long overriding what you feel that it’s become hard to hear yourself at all. You push through exhaustion, tense up when something doesn’t go according to plan, and distract yourself when sadness, anger, or fear starts to surface. You’re used to doing what needs to be done—but underneath it all, you may feel anxious, numb, overwhelmed, or unsure what you need and want.
You Still…
Say yes when you’re already stretched thin…
because disappointing someone feels harder than finding a way to squeeze one more thing in.
Feel your whole body tense up when you make a mistake…
even when you logically know it’s fixable, your stomach drops and your mind immediately goes to everything that could go wrong.
Need things to go according to plan to feel okay…
and when someone changes the plan or does something differently than you expected, you can feel yourself getting tense, panicked, or irritable before you’ve even had time to think.
Distract yourself when difficult feelings start creeping in…
turning to work, your phone, or any available task to avoid sitting with the sadness, anger, guilt, or loneliness underneath the surface.
Have a hard time knowing what you’re feeling at all…
you know you’re tired, disconnected, or just off, but putting words to what you feel—or figuring out what you actually need or want—can feel surprisingly difficult.
Find yourself reacting more strongly than you want to with the people you love…
a small disagreement can leave you snapping, shutting down, or feeling overwhelmed, making it hard to stay present and connected even when that’s what you want most.
Your body learned to protect you. It can learn something new, too.
My Approach
Your body and nervous system learn from experience. If you grew up feeling like you had to perform to earn approval, put other people’s needs before your own, or do everything absolutely perfectly to preempt criticism, your body adapted. Intergenerational trauma can shape these patterns, too, as fears, expectations, and ways of surviving are passed down through families.
Being tense, pushing past your limits, or ignoring what you feel may have helped you navigate what was expected of you in the past. Through mindfulness and gentle, embodied practices, we’ll help your nervous system gradually experience more safety and build your capacity to stay present with emotions and sensations that once felt overwhelming.
Over time, your body can learn that what protected you then isn’t your only option now.
You can begin to notice when you’ve had enough before you hit burnout, stay grounded when plans change, make room for difficult feelings, and experiment with new ways of responding that better reflect who you are and what you need today.
What does Somatic Therapy look like?
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Maybe you’re telling me about a tense conversation with your mom and notice your shoulders creeping towards your ears. Or you’re talking about saying no to your boss and suddenly feel a knot in your stomach. We’ll pause and get curious about those sensations instead of automatically pushing past them.
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Depending on what you’re experiencing, we might use breathing, orienting, visualization, or gentle grounding practices to help you feel more present and supported in the moment.
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Rather than immediately distracting yourself from anger, sadness, fear, or guilt, we’ll practice noticing what you feel without letting it take over. Over time, you can build a greater capacity to experience difficult emotions without shutting down, spiraling, or needing to make them disappear.
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Maybe your instinct is to tense up when you imagine disappointing someone. We can explore what happens when you picture saying no and practice staying connected to yourself as the discomfort comes up. Your nervous system gets to experience that another response is possible.
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You might let a project be 95% perfect instead of 100%. Say no when you know you’re at capacity. Or pause during an argument instead of snapping. Then we’ll pay attention to what happens: I did something differently. I tolerated the discomfort. And I was okay.
Over time, these experiences give your mind and body a chance to learn new ways of responding—so you have more choice instead of automatically doing what you’ve always done.
Somatic Therapy can help you…
Recognize what calm and safety actually feel like in your body, instead of tension and bracing being your default state.
Feel genuinely proud of yourself and how far you’ve come, rather than measuring your worth by your achievements and still feeling like you’re never quite enough.
Trust that you’ll be okay even when you don’t have all the answers, knowing you can face challenges without needing to control exactly how everything unfolds.
Recognize your limits and honor your needs, so you can set boundaries, take care of yourself, and stop pushing until you have nothing left to give.
Feel more connected to what you want for your own life, trusting that your feelings, needs, and desires matter—even when they’re different from what other people want for you.
Stay present with difficult emotions without immediately spiraling, shutting down, distracting yourself, or feeling like you have to make them go away.
Feel secure in the belief that you are loved and accepted for who you are, not just for what you achieve or what you can do for other people.
How Somatic Therapy helps…
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You may know there’s nothing to panic about, but your body doesn’t always get the message. Your chest tightens, your stomach flips, or your whole body tenses when you make a mistake, plans change, or something feels uncertain.
Somatic therapy helps you notice these responses and work with your nervous system instead of trying to think your way out of them. When anxiety is connected to early experiences or intergenerational trauma, your body can learn that uncertainty doesn’t always mean danger, and you can trust that you’ll be okay even when you don’t have everything under control.
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You may be getting through your days while feeling disconnected from yourself underneath it all. Maybe you feel numb or empty, have trouble knowing what you want, or don’t realize what you’re feeling until it becomes overwhelming.
Somatic therapy helps you slow down and reconnect with the feelings, needs, and desires you may have learned to push aside. As you become more able to notice and stay with what’s happening inside, you can feel more present in your life and more connected to what matters to you.
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You may feel a strong urge to get things right, fix mistakes quickly, or keep working until everything feels just so. Even when you know perfection isn’t possible, it can be difficult to relax or let something be good enough.
Somatic therapy helps you notice the tension and pressure that arise when things don’t feel right. By learning to pause, listen to your body, and respond with more flexibility, you can begin to trust yourself without relying on constant achievement or control.
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When you’re used to pushing through, it can be hard to recognize your limits until you’re already past them. You may ignore exhaustion, tension, hunger, or the need for a break because there’s always something—or someone—that needs your attention.
Somatic therapy helps you become more aware of your body’s signals before you reach your breaking point. You can learn to recognize what you need, honor your limits, and take care of yourself without waiting until your body forces you to stop.
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Conflict can set off a reaction in your body before you’ve had time to decide how you want to respond. You might tense up, snap, shut down, or become overwhelmed when you feel criticized, misunderstood, or worried that you’ve disappointed someone.
Somatic therapy helps you notice these reactions as they happen and build your capacity to stay present with difficult emotions. With practice, you can have more choice in how you respond, making it easier to express what you need, stay connected to yourself, and feel more present with the people you love.
SOMATIC THERAPY ONLINE & IN OAKLAND, CALIFORNIA
Feel safe enough to soften.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Somatic therapy is a body-centered approach to healing that recognizes how our experiences, especially stress and trauma, become stored in our physical bodies. Rather than relying on talk therapy alone, somatic work helps you tune into bodily sensations, tension patterns, and nervous system responses. Through gentle awareness and guided practices, you can begin to release what your body has been holding and restore a greater sense of ease and connection.
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We’ll talk about what’s happening in your life, but we’ll also pay attention to what you notice in your body as we do. Depending on what you need, we might use practices like breathing, visualization, orienting, bilateral stimulation, or progressive muscle relaxation to build awareness and help your nervous system experience greater safety and regulation.
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Somatic Therapy can be especially helpful when anxiety isn’t just something you think about—it consumes you. Maybe your stomach knots, your chest tightens, your heart races, or your whole body seems to brace when something goes wrong. We can work with those responses directly and help your nervous system gradually learn that it doesn’t always need to stay on high alert.
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Somatic tools can help you feel more grounded and regulated, but that’s not the end goal. We’ll also use that growing sense of safety to help you stay present with emotions and experiences that may have previously felt overwhelming.
From there, you can begin experimenting with different responses in your everyday life. So, you’re not just getting better at calming yourself down, but actually expanding what feels possible.
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Regulation doesn’t mean being calm all the time. It means having a greater ability to experience stress or difficult emotions without immediately becoming overwhelmed, shutting down, or getting stuck there. Over time, you can become more comfortable moving through those experiences and return to a sense of safety.
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Setting boundaries starts with being able to recognize that you have a limit. Somatic work can help you notice the signals that you’re tired, uncomfortable, overwhelmed, or simply don’t want something—rather than realizing it only after you’ve said yes. From there, you can practice honoring and advocating for those needs.
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Intergenerational trauma can shape what your nervous system learns about safety, emotions, relationships, and what’s expected of you. You may notice yourself bracing for something to go wrong, feeling uneasy when you rest, becoming overwhelmed when you disappoint someone, or pushing aside your own feelings and needs without even realizing it.
Somatic Therapy can help you notice these patterns in your body and gradually build a greater sense of safety, flexibility, and choice.
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While traditional talk therapy focuses primarily on thoughts, beliefs, and verbal processing, somatic therapy invites the body into the conversation. Many of us have learned to live from the neck up, disconnected from physical sensations and cues. Somatic work helps bridge that gap by exploring how emotions and experiences live in your body, offering a pathway to healing that words alone may not reach.
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Yes, somatic therapy can be particularly supportive for those experiencing anxiety. Anxiety often manifests physically through a racing heart, shallow breathing, muscle tension, or a persistent sense of unease. Somatic practices help you recognize these signals, regulate your nervous system, and develop tools to find calm when anxiety arises. Over time, many people find they feel more grounded and less overtaken by anxious responses.
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Somatic therapy is well suited for addressing intergenerational trauma because this type of trauma often lives beneath conscious awareness. The stress, grief, and survival patterns of previous generations can be passed down through family dynamics, nonverbal communication, and even our nervous systems. Somatic work allows you to access and gently release these inherited patterns, creating space for new ways of being that honor your history while freeing you from its weight.
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Not at all. Somatic therapy is helpful for anyone who feels disconnected from their body, experiences chronic stress or tension, or senses that something feels "stuck" even if they cannot name it. You do not need a specific event or diagnosis to benefit. Many people seek somatic work simply because they want to feel more present, embodied, and at ease in their daily lives.
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Healing is not linear, and the timeline varies for each person. Some people notice shifts in how they feel after just a few sessions, while deeper patterns may take longer to unwind. I encourage you to approach this work with patience and curiosity rather than rigid expectations. Together, we will check in regularly about your progress and adjust our approach to meet your evolving needs.
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Somatic principles can certainly be woven into couples and family work. Our relational patterns often show up in our bodies through how we hold tension during conflict, how we physically withdraw or move toward others, and how our nervous systems respond to those we love. Incorporating body awareness into couples or family sessions can deepen understanding and help create new, healthier ways of connecting.
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This is more common than you might think, and it is actually one of the reasons people seek somatic therapy. Disconnection from the body is often a protective response that developed over time. We will start slowly and gently, building your capacity to notice sensations without overwhelm. There is no right or wrong way to experience your body, and I will meet you exactly where you are.
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If you have tried talk therapy and felt like something was missing, if you carry tension or stress in your body, or if you sense that your struggles are not fully captured by words alone, somatic therapy may be a good fit. I offer a free 20 minute consultation where we can talk about what you are experiencing and explore whether this approach feels right for your healing journey. Please reach out to schedule a time to connect.
Laura Bai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Oakland, CA, specializing in somatic therapy for Asian Americans. Her practice focuses on healing intergenerational trauma, which often manifests as perfectionism, burnout, and codependency. Utilizing evidence-based modalities such as Attachment-Focused EMDR, Parts Work, and Somatic Therapy, Laura helps individuals, couples, and families break harmful cycles and build emotional resilience in both their personal relationships and careers.