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In-person & Online Somatic Therapy in Oakland, CA

Come home to yourself—and know you’ll be okay.

Reconnect with your body, your needs, and what actually matters to you.

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Your body has been trying to tell you something.

Maybe you’ve spent so long overriding what you feel that it’s become hard to hear yourself at all. You push through exhaustion, tense up when something doesn’t go according to plan, and distract yourself when sadness, anger, or fear starts to surface. You’re used to doing what needs to be done—but underneath it all, you may feel anxious, numb, overwhelmed, or unsure what you need and want.

You Still…

  • Say yes when you’re already stretched thin…

    because disappointing someone feels harder than finding a way to squeeze one more thing in.

  • Feel your whole body tense up when you make a mistake…

    even when you logically know it’s fixable, your stomach drops and your mind immediately goes to everything that could go wrong.

  • Need things to go according to plan to feel okay…

    and when someone changes the plan or does something differently than you expected, you can feel yourself getting tense, panicked, or irritable before you’ve even had time to think.

  • Distract yourself when difficult feelings start creeping in…

    turning to work, your phone, or any available task to avoid sitting with the sadness, anger, guilt, or loneliness underneath the surface.

  • Have a hard time knowing what you’re feeling at all…

    you know you’re tired, disconnected, or just off, but putting words to what you feel—or figuring out what you actually need or want—can feel surprisingly difficult.

  • Find yourself reacting more strongly than you want to with the people you love…

    a small disagreement can leave you snapping, shutting down, or feeling overwhelmed, making it hard to stay present and connected even when that’s what you want most.

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Your body learned to protect you. It can learn something new, too.

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My Approach

Your body and nervous system learn from experience. If you grew up feeling like you had to perform to earn approval, put other people’s needs before your own, or do everything absolutely perfectly to preempt criticism, your body adapted. Intergenerational trauma can shape these patterns, too, as fears, expectations, and ways of surviving are passed down through families.

Being tense, pushing past your limits, or ignoring what you feel may have helped you navigate what was expected of you in the past. Through mindfulness and gentle, embodied practices, we’ll help your nervous system gradually experience more safety and build your capacity to stay present with emotions and sensations that once felt overwhelming.

Over time, your body can learn that what protected you then isn’t your only option now.

You can begin to notice when you’ve had enough before you hit burnout, stay grounded when plans change, make room for difficult feelings, and experiment with new ways of responding that better reflect who you are and what you need today.

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What does Somatic Therapy look like?

Somatic Therapy can help you…

  • Recognize what calm and safety actually feel like in your body, instead of tension and bracing being your default state.

  • Feel genuinely proud of yourself and how far you’ve come, rather than measuring your worth by your achievements and still feeling like you’re never quite enough.

  • Trust that you’ll be okay even when you don’t have all the answers, knowing you can face challenges without needing to control exactly how everything unfolds.

  • Recognize your limits and honor your needs, so you can set boundaries, take care of yourself, and stop pushing until you have nothing left to give.

  • Feel more connected to what you want for your own life, trusting that your feelings, needs, and desires matter—even when they’re different from what other people want for you.

  • Stay present with difficult emotions without immediately spiraling, shutting down, distracting yourself, or feeling like you have to make them go away.

  • Feel secure in the belief that you are loved and accepted for who you are, not just for what you achieve or what you can do for other people.

How Somatic Therapy helps…

SOMATIC THERAPY ONLINE & IN OAKLAND, CALIFORNIA

Feel safe enough to soften.

Frequently Asked Questions

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Laura Bai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Oakland, CA, specializing in somatic therapy for Asian Americans. Her practice focuses on healing intergenerational trauma, which often manifests as perfectionism, burnout, and codependency. Utilizing evidence-based modalities such as Attachment-Focused EMDR, Parts Work, and Somatic Therapy, Laura helps individuals, couples, and families break harmful cycles and build emotional resilience in both their personal relationships and careers.